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I never really
thought that I'd spend as much time in airports as I do. I don't know why. I
always wanted to be famous and that would mean lots of travel. But I'm not
famous, yet I do see more than my share of airports.
I love them and I hate them. I
love them because of the people I get to watch. But they are also the same
reason why I hate airports. It all comes down to "hello" and "goodbye." I must
have mentioned this a few times while writing my stories for you.
I have great difficulties with saying goodbye.
Even as I write this I am experiencing that pounding sensation in my heart. If I
am watching such a scene in a movie I am affected so much that I need to sit up
and take a few deep breaths. So when faced with a challenge in my life I have
been known to go to our local airport and watch people say goodbye. I figure
nothing that is happening to me at the time could be as bad as having to say
goodbye.
Watching people cling to each other, crying, and
holding each other in that last embrace makes me appreciate what I have even
more. Seeing them finally pull apart, extending their arms until the tips of
their fingers are the last to let go, is an image that stays forefront in my
mind throughout the day.
On one of my recent business trips, when I
arrived at the counter to check in, the woman said, "How are you today?" I
replied, "I am missing my wife already and I haven't even said goodbye."
She then looked at my ticket and began to ask,
"How long will you...Oh, my God. You will only be gone for three days!" We all
laughed. My problem was I still had to say goodbye.
But I learn from goodbye moments, too.
Recently I overheard a father and daughter in
their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near
the security gate, they hugged and he said, "I love you. I wish you enough." She
in turn said, "Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is
all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy."
They kissed and she left. He walked over toward
the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed
to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking,
"Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?" "Yes, I
have," I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love
and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were
limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.
So I knew what this man was experiencing.
"Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever
goodbye?" I asked. "I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges
ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral," he said.
"When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, 'I
wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?"
He began to smile. "That's a wish that has been
handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." He
paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he
smiled even more. "When we said 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other
person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them," he
continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were
reciting it from memory.
"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude
bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun above.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye."
He then began to sob and walked away.
My friends, I wish you enough!
©
Bob Perks
Used with permission
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